The subject for today is about vulnerability and why it is okay not to be perfect, letting go, how I would like to be remembered and social media (Is it helping or hurting us?)

There is one lonely subject that was contributed and I have no clue how I am going to fit it in but it is the Star Wars Phenomenon and how it spans multiple generations.

I’m going to break down vulnerability in three different categories: social media, at work and in relationships.

Social media is definitely leaving the world vulnerable to all kinds of risks.  The way that most people use social media to give a play by play of their lives can be very dangerous if you don’t take the proper precautions.  When people post their check-ins and selfies on vacation or anything of that sort you could be making yourself vulnerable to burglary.  This is where your security settings are so important.  When you post any of that stuff publicly anybody can find your information and when you are bragging about being on the beach in the Caribbean someone could be seeing that and breaking into your empty home.  I know from a social media perspective I have everything locked down and if I’m out somewhere I try not to post anything when I’m at the location and instead wait until I’m back home.

I think vulnerability in the workplace is crucial for success.  People think that by showing their vulnerable side that makes them weak.  I honestly think it has the opposite effect and can show how strong you are.  I think it helps build trust amongst everyone.  When you admit you are wrong that shows taking responsibility in your part.  Trying to pretend you are perfect in everything you do at work creates a barrier between you and others and gives off negativity and the vibe that you are better than everyone else.  At work I have no problems admitting I did something wrong.

Just as I think making yourself vulnerable in the workplace is the key to success so is making yourself vulnerable in a relationship.  I think the hardest part of making yourself vulnerable is fear.  You may fear that exposing certain characteristics will make you unwanted.  You may be putting your guard up so you look like you are in control of your emotions.  You may be scared to open up because of a past relationship which left you feeling hurt.  You may be ashamed of something that you hide.  It’s normal to feel all those things but important to get over those fears, without that your relationship will struggle.  By opening up you are showing them that you trust them and in return you gain trust.  Pretending to be someone to hide your fears is only a temporary fix and in the long run can be draining and end in failure.  Being perfect is not natural and nobody in this world is perfect.  It’s scary opening up to a stranger but when you open up they will open up in return.  When I see someone act perfect and look perfect to me I always think fake and weakness. About 99% of the time there are underlying issues that they are hiding to look strong or in control but in reality they are the weakest.  I think it’s important for people to let go of this “perfect” life and embrace their imperfections.  I know making myself more vulnerable from a relationship perspective will be hard.  I have many fears that I will have to face when that time comes.   I know I want to be remembered for my uniqueness and not what I pretended to be.

I guess you could say Star Wars phenomenon is a lot like all that I discussed above as it spans multiple generations haha

“Share your weaknesses.  Share your hard moments.  Share your real side.  It’ll either scare away every fake person in your life or it will inspire them to finally let go of that mirage called “perfection,” which will open the doors to the most important relationships you’ll ever be a part of.” 

~ Dan Pearce